10 Ways to Remember What’s-Her-Name…by Donna Clark Goodrich

“Where are you living now?” my mother asked the woman who greeted her in front of the grocery store.

“Same place,” the woman replied.

Then my mother asked, “Where’s your husband working?”

“Still at the factory.”

My mother tried again. “And how are the children.”

“Fine,” came the answer. “They’re all married now.”

As we walked away, I said to my mother, laughing, “You don’t know who she is, do you?” She shook her head.

Shakespeare wrote, “I cannot tell what…his name is.” The bard isn’t the only one who had the problem of remembering names. Most of us have had the experience of meeting someone whose face we recognized, but we couldn’t think of their name. “I simply cannot remember names,” we excuse ourselves.

We all like the sound of our own name. It pleases us when people remember it, especially if they’ve only met us once before. By using the following hints, you too can impress others the next time you see them.

kathy-and-donna                                                   Bestest Friends–Donna and Kathy

1. Pay attention

Someone said, “The true art of memory is the art of retention.” This is especially true in remembering names. Listen closely when people tell you their name.

2. Repeat the name

Ask people to repeat their names if you didn’t understand it clearly the first time. Then use the name during the conversation and when saying good-bye.

3. Use word association

Note some unusual association between the person and her name. For example, Mrs. Pepper may have dark black hair. Or picture Mrs. Green in a green wig or, if she likes gardening, picture her working in a lush green lawn. Someone named Goodrich may have a halo around her head with dollar bills sticking out, while Robert could be pictured robbing a bank. The sillier the association, the easier it is to remember the name. (They don’t have to know the association, however!)

In remembering the names of siblings who are close in age or who look alike, it helps to capitalize on a difference. For example, I knew two sisters named Shirley and Rosemary. Shirley wore glasses. Thus, to me, S stood for Shirley and spectacles. Two of my daughters’ friends were named Evelyn and Elizabeth. Elizabeth had the longest hair and the longest name. With two sisters I knew, one was married and the other single, so M stood for Maxine  and married and A for Alice and available. (Later A stood for also married.)

4. Form descriptive words from initials

If a person’s name is Bobby Jones and he works as a chiropractor, think Back Jerker. A veterinarian named Kenny Smith can be Kitty Saver. A gynecologist named Peter Gibson might be remembered by the appropriate initials of “PG”.

5. Spell the name

Upon an introduction, ask people to spell their names, if necessary. In your mind, picture the letters as though appearing on a blackboard or marquee. Often names more difficult to pronounce are easier to remember, perhaps because you asked these folks to repeat and spell their names the first time you met them. One lady asked a person whose name she couldn’t remember, “Tell me your name again. I never can pronounce it.” The acquaintance replied, “Smith.”

Ross Foley tells of a pastor who had great difficulty with names. One Sunday morning a woman came through the line at the door and asked, “You remember me, don’t you?” He didn’t, but thought he’d fake it. So he said, “Oh, yes I do. But tell me, do you spell your name with an ‘e’ or an ‘i’? She replied, “With an ‘i’ and it’s Hill.”

  1. Develop a mental image

After leaving a person you just met, say the name over to yourself, each time visualizing that person in your mind.

7. Use photographs

If you know you will be meeting someone, try to get a photograph ahead of time. Study the picture for an identifying mark to connect with the name. Several months before attending a convention, I studied pictures of association officers I knew would be there. I studied their hair color, facial features, glasses, and so on, and tried to connect these features in some way with their name. For example, a man named “Rust” had reddish hair. They were pleasantly surprised when I greeted each one by name as they came into the press room to register.

8. Write down a description

After you’ve met someone, pretend you’ve been robbed and you have to give the officers a description of the person. What details can you remember about the height, weight, color of hair, eyes, and so on. Did he have a scar? Wear glasses?

  1. Put her into a story

Make this new acquaintance a character in a story or a novel. Describe her personality traits—exuberant, charismatic, pessimistic; how she talked—with an accent, a deep voice, squeaky, and so on. Use her name often in this story.

  1. Write a poem

Use this person’s name in a rhyme describing them: “I think Kathy is a little bit daffy”; “Emma Jean looks like a string bean”; “Jane uses a cane.” Feel free to use a little poetic license to help you associate the person with the rhyme.

Do these methods work for me? They do when I use them. And they can help you too.

What methods do you use to remember names?





About dgood648

Donna Clark Goodrich, Mesa, Arizona, is a speaker and author of 24 books and over 700 published manuscripts. She and her husband Gary have 1 son, 2 daughters, a pastor son-in-law, and 2 granddaughters. A freelance proofreader/editor and speaker, she enjoys writing devotionals, self-help books, and personal experience articles. Her latest books are A Step in the Write Direction—the Complete How-to Book for Christian Writers, The Freedom of Letting Go, and a joke book, The Little Book of Big Laughs. A children’s picture book Rhyme Time Stories for Little Ones will be released in February 2016 from Harvest House. Contact her at dgood648@aol.com or www.thewritersfriend.net. She also blogs every Monday at: http://donna-goodrich.blogspot.com
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4 Responses to 10 Ways to Remember What’s-Her-Name…by Donna Clark Goodrich

  1. Linda Carlblom says:

    Such a helpful post, Donna. And I love the title! Ha!


  2. dgood648 says:

    Thanks, Linda. I need to start remembering to use some of these hints again myself, especially with people I see only once a week at church. I’m getting terrible at remembering names the older I get.


  3. Carrie-Anne says:

    Sometimes we forget a person’s name if we’ve only ever seen him or her in a particular setting, and suddenly see him or her somewhere else. I was taking a walk around the pond a few years ago and saw a woman from my PowerBall class jogging. She recognized me, and commented on how she’d never seen me in feminine clothes before, though I couldn’t place her until after she’d left. I knew her face, but seeing her somewhere besides the gym kind of threw me.


    • dgood648 says:

      I saw a lady at the postal substation once who called me by name. She looked familiar but I couldn’t place her. The clerk even took a letter out that she had mailed and told me her name, but that didn’t help. Later when I went into the stationery store I visited all the time, there she was behind the counter. Like you said, seeing her somewhere besides the regular place threw me!


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